Ignore the Negative Comments and Follow Your Dream
Written by Lovelyn on September 10, 2008 – 6:48 pm -
I was browsing around a forum that I frequent recently when I came across a post that interested me. It was written by a woman who is trying to start an online business. In her post she said that she needed to get her business off the ground quickly because her family was not being supportive and she basically wanted to prove them wrong.
There are a lot of things that hold people back from their dreams. Unfortunately, sometimes family and friends are part of the problem.
The Courage to Try Despite Naysayers
When you decide that you’re going to try to do something new, like start a new unconventional business, you must realize that some people won’t be very supportive. It’s in some people’s nature to be negative. If your new idea is meeting a lot of criticism, examine the criticism and see if it has merit. If it does considering changing your plan a bit. If it doesn’t continue forward. You should take into consideration what others have to say, but don’t give other people’s opinions priority over your own.
Consider Their Motives
Most of the time, family members and friends think they have your best interest at heart when they criticize your dreams. They don’t want you to get hurt. They don’t want you to be disappointed. They usually think they’re protecting you. Consider this when they seem to be talking down your dreams.
In my opinion, the best thing to do in this situation is to thank them for their concern and explain that you want to try this out and see what happens. If they continue to make negative comments, try to put a humorous spin on the comments or defuse them in some other way.
Keep Trying
Never let others discourage you. Keep trying to achieve your dreams. Some people criticize you because they’re jealous that they don’t have to courage to do the same. Maybe your courage and success will help them take that first step towards realizing their own dreams.
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Tags: goals, happiness, success
Posted in Smart Living | 5 Comments »
September 11th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
I wish I had read this when I first started my home based business. You have offered some great tips, I will definitely share you site with anyone else struggling with the same obstacle.
September 14th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
doesn’t this web site has other languages support??
September 21st, 2008 at 4:27 pm
Lovelyn,
I arrived at your site via the GREAT guest post you did at Pro-Blogger! What a wonderful collection of tips and strategies for folks who are glued to the ‘net.
I find that I have to get my morning exercise done first, before I even turn on the monitor, or I am doomed!
I agree with you about the negativity of folks around when you start something new. What I’ve found is that when one person in a relationship changes, others have to, too, just to keep in the dance. And I think there is both a resentment (It’s YOUR project. Why do I have to change?) and a fear of loss–loss of the person, loss of the relationship that was OK as they knew it.
The flip side, of course, are those great people that absolutely love what you are doing! Which leads me to your web site. Right on! Keep doing exactly what you are doing!
G.
January 29th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
Thanks for this wonderful site filled with inspiration. I like your advice on following your own dream. I don’t understand why so many people are so quick to cut down other people’s dreams. Family members we’re stuck with. but “friends” who do this to me, don’t remain friends very long. I find that if you really want to make your dreams come true, you need to surround yourself with people who support you and your dreams, and who are chasing their own dreams as well.
June 26th, 2010 at 6:18 am
I like what I just read. I am 24 yrs old and finally found a teaching job that is out of town. Everyone has been nosey w/negative comments about me leaving to teach in a small town that I like so far and real excited about. My husband says they are jealous and if they have a problem they can pay my bills. I just need to learn to ignore the comments and show just mute them when they start telling me stuff. Guess not everyone can be happy for me.